Setting boundaries dating
You can learn healthy communication skills, and that will help.You can learn how to manage conflict—that will be of tremendous value.However, we must be very careful about telling others what they should think, feel or do, and likewise, must guard our boundaries carefully so others do not presume they can tell us what to think, feel or do.It is our responsibility to be clear with others about what we will tolerate, and what we won’t tolerate. In my Sexual Consent Workshops we learn about consent in the context of various relationships like a hook-up, dating, marriage/domestic partnership, a swinging encounter or a BDSM scene. I devoted a lot of time this month to speaking and teaching about sexual consent.A better definition of sexual consent is: It is necessary for us to predetermine our own sexual boundaries before we can effectively navigate consent when engaging in sexual activity with others.
Let’s discuss the situation of two people who wrote in to our message board. ) The first is an anonymous woman who writes the following: “My boyfriend keeps bringing up information about his old girlfriends, in spite of the fact that I’ve told him I don’t want to hear about them.
We’ve all heard the catch phrase “No Means No” which, on the surface, makes consent seem simple to navigate.