How to begin dating again after a breakup
If that seems to drastic, at least put them onto a disc or burn them CD, (stick them in the Cloud, e.g. BUDDY LISTS: As in number two, remove and block them from your buddy lists.
on dropbox) and put them somewhere where you won’t be tempted to continually re-read each one over and over. I know you think it’s a minor offense, even quite harmless, to keep in touch with your ex via email or instant messaging programs, but the only one you’re fooling is yourself. Often you just end up spying on them, checking to see when they are on (and wondering who they are talking to if it’s not you! If they do actually message you, you end up over-analysing each message they send, or worse yet, you get hurt when they tell you they are off “out” that night (and don’t say where).
It’s an absolute nightmare, why put yourself through all that?
In a weird sort of way, keeping in touch electronically is a form of .
Below are a few of my suggestions that will hopefully help you decrease your recovery time, and maybe minimize the amount of mistakes made along the way…Here’s hoping, at any rate! (“Emotional Rehab”) – which is basically just my way of saying that it might be “time to go cold turkey” – at least for a little while!
As tempting as it is, if you are still in love with your EX, and he or she doesn’t reciprocate the feelings and intensity, then you’re better off making a clean break. Most people choose to ignore my advice, and remain their ex’s friend – somehow imagining if they do continue to be this wonderful, supportive friend, their EX will miraculously see the err of their ways – and take them back. Now some of you will insist on remaining “friends” with your ex (or have to due to classes, jobs or children together), so if you are attempting this, be sure to set some ground rules.
Box them up and put them in a closet or somewhere equally out of sight.
EMAILS: Similarly, if you can bring yourself to DELETE all of the old emails between you, then do it.I also suggest writing down GOOD stuff that happens to you on a daily basis.Eventually more and more GOOD stuff will start to happen, that’s the way it works in life!Hopefully enough time will have past where you are better able to handle being in touch without all the mental hopscotch!