Frequency of communication during dating
Texting does help those who are nervous, or who have shakier interpersonal skills, avoid potentially stressful encounters.
We know flirting can be tremendously awkward; why not text to make it a bit easier?
A flirty text relationship should work the same way a conversation works in real life.
Texts should be back and forth – a message, a reply, and so on.
Plus, text topics are a valuable commodity, so use them sparingly! You’re not respecting their schedule If you know he’s got a busy weekend ahead, then don’t text him constantly in an attempt to get his attention. The beginning of a new relationship is no place for negativity.
Stick to inside jokes to create a sense of intimacy – you’ll be surprised how long you can keep a flirty text conversation going just by teasing someone about that time they had too many glasses of wine and accidentally… Don’t tell them how much your boss pissed you off today, or that your bank account is in the toilet.
However, an alarming amount of people seem to forget this simple fact and think it’s a good idea to play “hard to get” via text, and then wonder why they stop hearing from their new flame!
In one sample, over 90 percent reported texting to connect with a partner at least once a day (Schade, Sandberg, Bean, Busby, & Coyne, 2013). Teenagers report an impressively high rate of text-based communications with their boyfriends and girlfriends, with roughly 20 percent of teens who date texting their dating partner 30 times per hour or more during after-school hours or the early or late evening (Teenage Research Unlimited, 2007).More often than not, it won’t work in your favor and if you wait a day or two to respond, he’ll think you’re ghosting him.In the good old days, dating was defined by a series of face-to-face encounters.A subtle shift seems to be occurring in today’s dating relationships and it warrants our attention.