Dating up or down
As women are increasingly autonomous, we must recalibrate our idea of what a good woman is, but also what a good man is, too.Just as we must expect men to not be threatened by a high-achieving or high-earning, accomplished, intelligent woman, we also must be able to see men as something other than only earners or doers who must baseline provide.It's nothing personal against Machado's essay, which I think is honest and insightful.It's the nagging sense that we can't escape gender roles even when we want to.And Machado gets at the current climate for single hetero female daters:.You could also argue my romantic preferences weren't entirely preferences, but a modern conundrum: Today's average straight, single gal is wading in a dating pool where she outnumbers male college graduates six to four , and where more than one in the six guys she's talking to doesn't have a job and two-thirds of those unemployed dudes say they're not even looking for one.
However, there are, apparently, four types of people who can get away with dating up.
She is more likely to meet a Jeff than a Zuckerberg.
And she succinctly addresses what is fairly retrograde about measuring a man by his income and prospects, too, at least in terms of how they elevate a woman:.
From there, we learn that women are more likely to date down.
Men and sometimes women with lots of money and wealth can date whomever the fuck they choose.
But I have to say, even when I realized that someone I dated wasn't a good match or didn't want the same things, a.